I posted about being a "Yes Mom" several years ago HERE. It's a philosophy that's near and dear to my heart, so I thought I'd revisit it today.
As a mom (and a mom of three!) I find myself saying "no" or a version of "no" all. the. time.
"No. We're not going to Lego Land today after school."
"Don't put clothespins on your sisters ears."
"We don't take our diaper off to dump our poop in the toilet"
"No, we can not have a pet cow live in our backyard"
"No. You may not have cupcakes for breakfast."
You get the idea.
There are things that I obviously have to say no to, but sometimes I catch myself saying no to things that I could just as easily say yes to.
When Mason asks to play Play Dough, my first response is usually "no". Because play dough sucks. It dries in crusty little pieces and gets into all the little toys and it completely annoys me that he mixes the colors. I just swept the floor and I don't want to have to sweep up again when you're done. BUT... it doesn't have to be "no". It can be, "yes" because honestly... it will make his little day and how long does it REALLY take to sweep.
When Luke wants to have a picnic and eat dinner on the floor of the family room while watching Curious George I want to explain that we eat dinner at the table because that's what we do :) But instead I oblige his request and get to see his excited little face. :)
When the kids ask if we can do chalk on the driveway, my initial response is to say "NO! I have dinner to cook, your sister needs to get a bottle and I don't want to have to get the chalk out, clean it up and then wash your hands". :) But really - how hard is it to just say yes, play chalk for 10 minutes and then go on with our lives.
"Go ahead and eat that cookie before dinner". Because really. Are they going to eat all of their other food anyway??? And how fun to get a cookie before dinner. hahaha
You want to wear a football helmet into Starbucks? Why not.
Now, don't think I'm saying yes to everything and we're just all "willy nilly" up in here. We have rules and boundaries and all that jazz and they know that I don't always say yes. They also know that sometimes the yes comes with a condition...
"Sure, we can go blow bubbles after dinner.... but then we won't have time for bubbles in the tub tonight".
I try to say yes, because then when I say no I can remind them of all the times I said yes.
I try to say "yes" because I want them to know I think they're full of great ideas.
I try to say "yes" as often as I can because I don't want them to remember me always saying no.
I try to say "yes" because most of the time we end up creating super special memories that otherwise wouldn't have happened.
Give being a "Yes Mom" a try and tell me what you think! You might just be surprised at how much fun you end up having :)